At a ripe age of 30, I typically get abt 10 wedding invitations a year. Of which, I probably only attended 2. Having said tat, I really prefer to meet up on a separate dinner with the Bride n groom, where we can really get to know each other better! To really feel happy for my friend to get married, I need the assurance that the Groom is a decent guy for my BFF (Best Friends Forever), or the Bride is a sweet gal for my BGF(Best Guy Friend). This is not wrong of me, right?!
Especially dreadful when the invitation is from:
1) distant relatives' - whom havent seen in like Eeyore years!
2) former colleagues' - whom u never keep in touch EVER after leaving the company,
3) current colleagues' - whom invited u outa courtesy, either they secretly hope you give very big ang pow cos u dun wanna malu, or they secretly wish u come out with some excuse not to attend, yet still give an ang pow).
Ok, this is just the cynical part of me....Alot of time, kind pple really just wanna share their joy with u! Not that I am not happy for them, but mayb cos I am too happy for them. For all the wedding dinners that I have attended, I never quite enjoy myself. Not becos the food sucks, not becos the entry of the 1st course is yet another techno dance choreographed by the captain - cliche. Mainly cos I feel so touched watching the opening montage of how they grew up, met, decided to get together, the morning of receiving the bride, yet another 姐妹group and 兄弟entourage.
All these are very cliche.... but I alwis feel very touched by all these... you may not believe, but the part that touches me the most, the 敬茶 to the immediate family members (Parents n siblings). Note: Not the part when they have to check with the Aunty how to address the person they are serving to, that will be superb fake.
I just find that the 敬茶 part is so very touching! Being a traditional che-na gal, i know the elders take this very seriously... when they receive the tea, they truly partake it and wholeheartedly embrace the bride/groom into the family... to me this is impt. It paths the journey ahead with the correct expectations, In-laws shouldnt bully someone whom they accepted as their own children, n children themselves should treat their in-laws as their own parent. Hopefully no more of their PIL (parent-in-law) issues to gossip about in the office cubicle!
So there u have it, I am really supportive of weddings.... I just dun like pple to see the softer side of me when I secretly wipe a tear away at the table... of cos I dun wanna ruin my pretty make-up also lah!
One part i really hate of weddings... or rather any family functions... esp during CNY (which is approaching fast).
This:
My Papa like to "show" me off...
Of cos the irky FAQs I have to answer:
Q1)
SKLP:When is ur turn to get married?
Me: When u get a divorce, then I will consider bah.
SKLP: Aiyoh, dun be so picky!
Me: Nah, I dun wanna be like ur husband, anyhow pick a wife like u!
*No, i did not say tat.... usually i try to say it under my breathe.
Another variation of Q1)
SKLP:Do u wan me to introduce u Boyfriend or not?
Me: Dun wan, u have lousy taste! Just look at ur piggy husband!
*Yes, wish I can say tat! Yah, right!
Q2)
SKLP: Where are u working now?!
Me: I work from home, my own.
SKLP: WAU! Own boss leh! Sure earn alot lor!
Me: No lah, n if u wanna borrow $$ from me, I have none for u!
*No, I didnt say tat either, what to do, I am a chicken!
*P.S: SKLP = 三姑六婆 (3rd Aunty, 6th Grandma)
*P.S: SKLP = 三姑六婆 (3rd Aunty, 6th Grandma)
Now....I m really starting to dread CNY... my papa is in the talks again, cos we are hosting the CNY at our place again this year. Argh........
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