Do u believe in this saying?
"旧的不去，新的不来!
Old one dun go, new ones dun come! "
Sometimes we hang on to the
old stuff we have, we treasure it for sentimental values, citing the only reasons we still hang on to it is that it's still
"functioning", "it still works!"... but the actual reasons is our refusal to admite tat we just too
"soft" and yet another
"Old fart who's getting Sentimental with the old feelings"...
By
Old Stuff, I mean not only items, objects, tangible stuffs.... but also
our inner most feelings... Just to cite an example, How many couples still stay together though they would secretly admite that there's no sparks between them anymore? We commit the same mistakes of hanging on to
stuff we feel familiar with, mayb we are afraid of the New to come, the whole cycle of having to learn the new ropes, or the getting used to something new.
I have this epiphany due to 3 reasons over what happened on the last few days of the year.
1) My trusty TIMEX broke on me...
2) A new friend openly admitted to me that he is committing adultry, n the wife just accepted things as it is...
3) My BGF (Best Guy Friend) finally decided to break up with his 1st official gf...
On matter number 1), my trusty TIMEX was a gift from my ex. It must have probably been with me for the past 5-6years. I feel esp upset not only cos it was the last of the watches still working that I received from this ex, but also cos it has been thru with me another memorable relationship, a series of self discovery thru a return to sports in terms of running n triathlons, many more. For months I have noticed a deep crack on the casting.... i secretly pray that it's just yet another
"war scar" it suffered (I have replaced more than once the batteries, the straps when it broke on me though the color was totally uncompatible)... I held on to the watch dearly... but it finally succumbed to it's
"war injuries".
Btw, I had already received a new TIMEX since Aug, so frankly I am not in short of sport watches, but I have refused to wear the new one yet, i wanted to be faithful to my old 1....
for crying loud sake- yes! Sentimental values!
Now I am "forced" to "remarry" a new watch after the old 1 R.I.P-ed on me.
My time stops here...
On matter number 2), I was kinda taken aback when someone who just re-know me (we knew each other in school but never toked), told me bluntly in the face that he was committing adultry... as if he was just telling me
"I just got a new mobile phone girlfriend..." Btw, he's a father of 1.5 (2nd 1 due in Apr). He's my age, n knew his wife for like 13 yrs, tat's almost half the number of years he's alive on planet earth!
Expectedly, he is full of praises for his wife - for alwis forgiving him even learning of his infidelities (Plural btw) over the years of their courtship and eventually marriage. *Bravo*
He said that for the new year, he wish to stay more focused on his family, sever ties with the current gf. For a moment, I actually tot he was serious - by the end of the day when we left the party n he dropped me home, i am not convinced. I even have this strange feeling that he was hitting on me the whole night.
I ended up telling him that
Both Women n Men are stupid,
the only difference is that Women tok it out, Men dun. Mayb cos
Women knew that Men is stupider, so she feel the need to TELL him, which entry angle will hits her O-Spot.
Men, knowing that Women are cleverer, hence he never tells her what pleases him... instead, he spent the whole night pulling her hair trying to smash her head into his balls... Men, the poor girl will be wondering if u are trying to kill her! Just tell the Women "Deeper", i think Women are smart enough to know what it means. Lesson learnt,
"ask n u shall be given!"
We toked abt how well oiled his sex machine is with his wife, everything is as reliable as the clock, how this familarities seemed to be a very grey thing -
familiarity is predictable, no mistakes, reliable and no guessing needed, otherwise - fool proofed!
But familiarity is Boring. For all the pros that it has, 1 con is enough to throw everything outa window. What irony!
For Matter number 3), some time back, my BGF had told me that he was thinking of calling it quits with his gf of 3 years. For the many years i know him, this is the 1st gf that he brought to family functions, introduced to his gang of kakis and i think at some point, marriage was on the cards.
When he told me tat, I asked if he has decided already. U see,
a guy never really "ask" another person for advice, he "tells" his concerns n ends with his decision, esp when the person is a girl (moi). Though he said "No", i am not surprised to learn that he finally pulled the plug after 2months...
In his case, he was actually relectuant to let go, but had to after a series of failed "negotiations". He had to make the painful decision. But after 3 years together? Was the need to clinge to "familiarities" involved in this wretched play? IMHO,
it's more painful to let go of 旧 (old) when u are not in sight of 新 (new).
I mourn for my BGF's loss, he's a Great guy! But i am happy for his courage to let go of old baggages n wait for new ones to come.
So for the saying of
"旧的不去，新的不来! Old one dun go, new ones dun come! ",
i have unexplainable mixed feelings of it. A part of me welcome the new experience, yet another clinge on desparately to the old familiarites.
Oh the Wretched n Nostalgic me!
