一个九月九日二零零九年的约定, 就真的能长长久久吗?
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I woke at 7.30am this morning, help to style Edwards’ hair for his big day. He & Sister Ariel are getting hitched! Venue is at Changi Bethesda Church.
It’s gona be a short & simple church solemnisation, followed by a lunch buffet at the church’s kindergarten. My role today is to be the 乖妹妹, sit at the reception table to sign guests in. As I sat there signing guests in, I realised that I don’t know my own brother’s friends… he doesn’t have many to start with, mostly acquaintances from work… some cell group members… oh, he has ONE friend I recognise though.
I feel a tinge of sadness in me…. A rather solemn question bugging me… how is my own brother like, outside the family walls… was he likeable? Was he charismatic? Was he kind?
I was much saddened cos the whole family was there…. simply cos we have to be there, not cos we want to be there! I suddenly got rather fearful that if I were to get married, would I run into the same situation?
The pastor’s sermon highlighted 3 main points to keep a marriage going strong & happy:
1) Continue to pursue (追求) each other
追求 each other, do the things that you know make each other happy during courtship.
Courtship should be an on-going process! Dun stop after the success, work even harder from today onwards to maintain the relationship!
2) Be nice – Dun demean your partner.
Learn to not disagree, not be a wet blanket! Trust your spouse’s intelligence & maturity to make the decision that is best for the both is you! Most importantly, dun use this phrase when things go wrong: “ Seee! I told you so & you dun listen to me!” it’s most demeaning even when in private, esp when in the public! Boast abt his/her positive traits! For example, her cooking, his humour, her analytic skills, his financial planning skills etc!
3) Fulfil each other’s destiny in life
Know your spouses’ destiny in Life… is it to be a gd mother? Gd daughter? Sport person? Financial independents? Bigger house? Whatever the destiny is, try to help each other achieve it, & achieve it together! A couple whose goals are common – Strives & stays together!
The pastor’s sermon set me thinking lots… did I fulfilled my duty as a girlfriend in my past r/s? Did I cont to pursue him? Was I nice & boast his achievements? Did I understand & try to fulfil his destiny?
Some “Yes-es” & some “No-s”…I must take note of these & make improvement in my next r/s!
Jia you!
Anyway, we had a family portrait!
Has been awhile since we had one – we used to have one on the 1st day of every Chinese New Year… with the exception of the faithful year I didn’t stay with my family. I was always the one who initiated the photo taking. So since I emerged from the main door (not from my room door), everyone forgot! We missed the year’s most memorable event! Oh at least it’s memorable to me! Actually, I remembered & waited patiently for the day to come, sadly my theory was correct – only I cared. So this year, I make it a point to continue the tradition, I make sure I included my two cats! =D
Anyhow, the event ended sometime in the late afternoon & I got home to sleep…it was a rather disturbing sleep though. Weather was terrible + mind too full of thoughts!
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